Showing respect when that person has lost yours, is hard to do.
When we as wives withhold respect from our husbands—it is as if a gulf suddenly opens up between us and our man. A gulf that is wide and chalk-full of alligators, snakes, zombies, molten lava, and anything else horrible and scary.
Bottom line—the gulf is uncrossable. Even if the disrespect has not been spoken aloud, men have this built in bat-radar that can pick up disrespect like a bat can hear a gnats wing flutter. Crazy uncanny and sensitive.
And the truth is, we as women can crush our husband by our lack of respect.
If we don’t remedy our ways, repent of our lack of respect, and start showing it even when it is difficult and seemingly impossible—our marriage is over. There will be an affair or some other type of catastrophe. The death knoll will ring if we don’t change, ladies. This is a serious marriage problem, and I know that I am not the only one who deals with this stuff.
I know, I know, I can hear you say (because I have said it a million times), “Yes, but what if he has lost my respect? How can I show it if it is all gone?”
So, let me help you here, I bet there is at least one or two small things that you still admire about him. Is he a good provider, good at taking care of the vehicles or yard work, does he help cook or clean, is he good at managing the money, does he help tuck the kids into bed at night?
Find that one thing and tell him that you love that about him. Tell him that he does that one thing real well. Tell him, thank him, hug him, reward him…then repeat.
Before long you will think of another thing that you admire about him. Repeat the process for each thing.
Soon you will notice that the zombies and alligators are gone from the gulf, and soon the gulf will be gone as well.
Start with one, then two and before you know it the list will grow. But, you have to take action TODAY! Fight for your marriage. Fight for your family. It is so worth it.
Strap on your toolbelt. I’ll see you on the jobsite of life.
Remember, I am praying for you!